It's empathy. I might have done the same in her case (if I didn't have to already learn to recognize it, from experience*). Keep in mind that when the unsub first woke up, he wasn't a killer, that part was asleep, he was a man who didn't know who he is except that he was accused in a murder. He was so polite and confused, in spite of his age, he radiated 'lost little boy', and people who entered the police force to protect? Would respond to that. Remember the warden who was kind to Sarah Jean in "Riding the Lighting"?
Well, first date as dinner would be cool if it's someone like JJ and Spencer, or even Garcia and Kevin, they work in the same building. Garcia at that point, knew nothing about the unsub except what he told her, the only difference between that and meeting someone off the internet is that she knows what he looks like. They were strangers and the got to know each other better date should have been in public and in broad daylight.
The problem with the night date is, even if you are okay with walking home alone, it gives him an opening to insist on walking you home, and he won't necessary look like a creeper, he might look patronizing, but to mainstream, he'll look concern, and if he has any ill intentions, it'll be disguised under the mainstream appearance of concern.
I'm genderqueer, and in appearance and behaviour, I switch back and forth a lot. When I'm a woman, other women are comfortable sitting next to me. Then the men, if they are boors, they might sit their legs spread, pressed against mine, into MY seat. If they be gents, the'll keep to their seats, keeping their hands seen, crossing their arms. Either way, it's most uncomfortable for both of us.
When I'm a man, I sit next to the same boors (I think I recognize the same boors), a few would do the same, but most wouldn't because No Homo (or maybe they expect a man to be more aggressively offended about having his seat space offended). The gents are less tense, less afraid that they'll be accused of harassment. Many women who were comfortable before though - now they wouldn't sit next to me or they'll be closed in.
As obviously a girl, I have said hi to other women on night streets, if we are alone, sometimes we are both relieved that that is another woman on the night street with us. When I'm passing as a guy, if I forget and walk too close and say hi, some women would instinctively back away, I don't know if she knows she's doing it, but I know she is because I do it to, she's quickly accessing if I'm a threat.
It it from growing up as the daughter who was told not to go out after dark, even though the sun sets at five o'clock in Canadian winter, it is from the twin gender perspectives of pulling the Polly Oliver, that I totally applaud the way how Starling explain how a man who wish to approach a woman must first consider her sense of safety:
...but as nwjarvis has pointed out, Battle wasn't concerned with Penelope's feelings or well-being, he was a narcissist.
*...additionally, this is why iMad when people say that Gideon is narcissist, I know plenty of those, they will never close off when upset like Gideon does when he's hurting. Gideon views HIMSELF as damaged and a bad influence, that's why he keeps people at arm's length, Hotch pointed this out to Strauss at the end of "No Way Out II". That's why he drove off at the end. Narcissist don't break down like this, if they kill themselves, they'll kill their family first. Narcissist don't grieve alone, taking some small joy that their close ones are happy the way Gideon does when Reid is happy. Narcissist insist on everyone being as upset as them, getting resentful when the weather doesn't reflect on their mope, they forcefully changes the emotional weather of any room they walk into.
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Date: Feb. 6th, 2012 05:15 pm (UTC)Well, first date as dinner would be cool if it's someone like JJ and Spencer, or even Garcia and Kevin, they work in the same building. Garcia at that point, knew nothing about the unsub except what he told her, the only difference between that and meeting someone off the internet is that she knows what he looks like. They were strangers and the got to know each other better date should have been in public and in broad daylight.
The problem with the night date is, even if you are okay with walking home alone, it gives him an opening to insist on walking you home, and he won't necessary look like a creeper, he might look patronizing, but to mainstream, he'll look concern, and if he has any ill intentions, it'll be disguised under the mainstream appearance of concern.
I'm genderqueer, and in appearance and behaviour, I switch back and forth a lot. When I'm a woman, other women are comfortable sitting next to me. Then the men, if they are boors, they might sit their legs spread, pressed against mine, into MY seat. If they be gents, the'll keep to their seats, keeping their hands seen, crossing their arms. Either way, it's most uncomfortable for both of us.
When I'm a man, I sit next to the same boors (I think I recognize the same boors), a few would do the same, but most wouldn't because No Homo (or maybe they expect a man to be more aggressively offended about having his seat space offended). The gents are less tense, less afraid that they'll be accused of harassment. Many women who were comfortable before though - now they wouldn't sit next to me or they'll be closed in.
As obviously a girl, I have said hi to other women on night streets, if we are alone, sometimes we are both relieved that that is another woman on the night street with us. When I'm passing as a guy, if I forget and walk too close and say hi, some women would instinctively back away, I don't know if she knows she's doing it, but I know she is because I do it to, she's quickly accessing if I'm a threat.
It it from growing up as the daughter who was told not to go out after dark, even though the sun sets at five o'clock in Canadian winter, it is from the twin gender perspectives of pulling the Polly Oliver, that I totally applaud the way how Starling explain how a man who wish to approach a woman must first consider her sense of safety:
kateharding.net/2009/10/08/guest-blogger-starling-schrodinger%E2%80%99s-rapist-or-a-guy%E2%80%99s-guide-to-approaching-strange-women-without-being-maced/
...but as nwjarvis has pointed out, Battle wasn't concerned with Penelope's feelings or well-being, he was a narcissist.
*...additionally, this is why iMad when people say that Gideon is narcissist, I know plenty of those, they will never close off when upset like Gideon does when he's hurting. Gideon views HIMSELF as damaged and a bad influence, that's why he keeps people at arm's length, Hotch pointed this out to Strauss at the end of "No Way Out II". That's why he drove off at the end. Narcissist don't break down like this, if they kill themselves, they'll kill their family first. Narcissist don't grieve alone, taking some small joy that their close ones are happy the way Gideon does when Reid is happy. Narcissist insist on everyone being as upset as them, getting resentful when the weather doesn't reflect on their mope, they forcefully changes the emotional weather of any room they walk into.